Monday, December 14, 2009

Over the hill to the poor-house...

This poem was read by Leuria Settlemyer during a Selah Youth society meeting in 1933. If I didn't know better I would have thought my 92 year old friend had wrote the words, not for the substance about family for she was so close to her's but more for the wit and the attitude.

We celebrated her life and honored her death this past Friday and I shared a few verses from this which made us all smile as she always did. Several had asked me about the title and author so I share it with you now.

In Christ,

Rev Patrick Muston, pastor

Selah Christian Church
Four Oaks, NC




OVER THE HILL TO THE POOR-HOUSE

by Will Carleton, 1897

Over the hill to the poor-house I'm trudgin' my weary way---
I, a woman of seventy, and only a trifle gray---
I, who am smart an' chipper, for all the years I've told,
As many another woman that's only half as old.

Over the hill to the poor-house---I can't quite make it clear!
Over the hill to the poor-house---it seems so horrid queer!
Many a step I've taken, a-toilin' to and fro,
But this is a sort of journey I never thought to go.

What is the use of heapin' on me a pauper's shame?
Am I lazy or crazy? am I blind or lame?
True, I am not so supple, nor yet so awful stout;
But charity ain't no favor, if one can live without.

I am ready and willin' an' anxious any day
To work for a decent livin' and pay my honest way;
For I can earn my victuals, an' more too, I'll be bound,
If anybody is willin' to only have me 'round.

Once I was young an' hand'some---I was, upon my soul---
Once my cheeks was roses, my eyes was black as coal;
And I can't remember, in them days, of hearin' people say,
For any kind of a reason, that I was in their way!

'Tain't no use of boastin' or talkin' over-free,
But many a house an' home was open then to me;
Many a han'some offer I had from likely men,

And nobody ever hinted that I was a burden then.
And when to John I was married, sure he was good and smart,
But he and all the neighbors would own I done my part;
For life was all before me, an' I was young an' strong,

And I worked my best an' smartest in tryin' to get along.
And so we worked together; and life was hard, but gay,
With now and then a baby to cheer us on our way.
Till we had half a dozen, an' all growed clean an' neat,

An' went to school like others, an' had enough to eat.
An' so we worked for the child'rn, and raised 'em every one---
Worked for 'em summer and winter, just as we ought to've done;
Only perhaps we humored 'em, which some good folks condemn,
But every couple's own child'rn's a heap the dearest to them!

Strange how much we think of OUR blessed little ones!---
I'd have died for my daughters, and I'd have died for my sons.
And God He made that rule of love; but when we're old and gray
I've noticed it sometimes, somehow, fails to work the other way.

Stranger another thing: when our boys an' girls was grown,
And when, exceptin' Charley, they'd left us there alone,
When John he nearer an' nearer came, an' dearer seemed to be,
The Lord of Hosts, He came one day an' took him away from me!

Still I was bound to struggle, an' never cringe or fall---
Still I worked for Charley, for Charley was now my all;
And Charley was pretty good to me, with scarce a word or frown,
Till at last he went a-courtin', and brought a wife from town.

She was somewhat dressy, an' hadn't a pleasant smile---
She was quite conceity, and carried a heap o' style;
But if ever I tried to be friends, I did with her, I know;
But she was hard and haughty, an' we couldn't make it go.

She had an edication, and that was good for her,
But when she twitted me on mine, 'twas carryin' things too far,
An' I told her once, 'fore company, (an' it almost made her sick)
That I never swallowed a grammer, nor 'et a 'rithmetic.

So 'twas only a few days before the thing was done---
They was a family of themselves, and I another one.
And a very little cottage one family will do,
But I never have seen a mansion that was big enough for two.

An' I never could speak to suit her, never could please her eye,
An' it made me independent, an' then I didn't try.
But I was terribly humbled, an' felt it like a blow,
When Charley turned agin me, an' told me I could go!

I went to live with Susan, but Susan's house was small,
And she was always a-hintin' how snug it was for us all;
And what with her husband's sisters, and what with child'rn three,
'Twas easy to discover there wasn't room for me.

An' then I went with Thomas, the oldest son I've got:
For Thomas's buildings'd cover the half of an acre lot,
But all the child'rn was on me---I couldn't stand their sauce---
And Thomas said I needn't think I was comin' there to boss.

An' then I wrote to Rebecca, my girl who lives out West,
And to Isaac, not far from her---some twenty miles at best;
And one of 'em said 'twas too warm there for anyone so old,
And t'other had an opinion the climate was too cold.

So they have shirked and slighted me, an' shifted me about---
So they have well nigh soured me, an' wore my old heart out;
But still I've borne up pretty well, an' wasn't much put down,
Till Charley went to the poor-master, an' put me on the town!

Over the hill to the poor-house---my child'rn dear, good-bye!
Many a night I've watched you when only God was nigh;
And God'll judge between us; but I will al'ays pray
That you shall never suffer the half that I do to-day!

Sunday, December 13, 2009

December 13, 2009 ~ A Video Christmas Card from...Tim on technology


http://www.tangle.com/view_video?viewkey=38633787536a4c4bb25b&utm_source=newsletter121409&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=weeklytopvideos


This brought back some memories of what technology used to be like...


Hope Tim puts a smile on your face as well.



Your pastor,

Rev Patrick Muston

Selah Christian Church
Four Oaks, NC

http://selahchurch.com


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Saturday, December 12, 2009

December 12, 2009 ~ A Competent God

God is our ultimate Mr. Fix-it!


Today's Scripture:


Behold, I am the Lord, the God of all flesh. Is there anything too hard for Me?

Jeremiah 32:27


As a child, Sara thought of her mom as Mrs. Fix-it. When a doll's arm came off one time. Sara took it to Mom and she fixed it. When Sara struggled to understand arithmetic in grade school, Mom spent hours drilling her, and Sara is a math whiz today. In high school and college, Mom fixed Sara's troubles with bos, English comp, soccer, and other matters. For Sara, her mom continues to be a force in her life for good. She can do just about anything.


Of course, in reality there are many things Sara's mom can't do. She can't automatically fix a difficult marriage or give her daughter more time to get things done. She can't make a baby's handicap go away. And she certainly can't solve the problem of death or serious illness.. But there is Someone who can help her much as her mother did, but who is far greater and stronger: God. Sara can lean on her heavenly Parent for strength, courage, and wisdom to deal with the hard things in her life.


Selah people' and friends at times in your life, the situation may seem hopeless and your life circumstances insurmountable. The joy is torn from you life. Your not alone, however. The situation isn't forever, and nothing is too hard for God.



God can do anything-anything-as long as it does not compromise his holiness and righteousness.



"God is the ultimaate Mr. Fix-It. He doesn't fix everything in a day or even in a lifetime. But look to him for the answers to your concerns, and eventually the answers will come."


Your pastor,

Rev Patrick Muston
Selah Christian Church

Four Oaks, NC

Last night we had close to 500 come through to share our gift to the community... Please join us Tonight 12-12-2009 for our FREE LIVE NATIVITY from 6-8:30pm we will have 13 biblical scenes and over 100 cast members sharing the story of Christ.
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Friday, December 11, 2009

December 11, 2009 ~ The Living Nativity?



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Could you give up your son?



I too am so thankful that we are not God and that He loved us so much.



Please remember the reason for the season.



Your pastor,



Rev Patrick Muston



Selah Christian Church

Four Oaks, NC

http://selahchurch.com

Join us Tonight & tomorrow for our FREE LIVE NATIVITY this Friday and Saturday from 6-8:30pm we will have 13 biblical scenes and over 100 cast members sharing the story of Christ.

Listen 24/7/365 to our music special and sermon each week via our media website:

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Thursday, December 10, 2009

December 10, 2009 ~ Tribute: Sallie Leuria Settlemyer




Sallie Leuria Settlemyer April 20, 1917 - December 08, 2009

Grantham: Sallie Leuria Holmes Settlemyer, 92, passed away on Tuesday morning at Wayne Memorial Hospital.

Sallie was born in Wayne County on April 20, 1917 to the late Henry Clay Holmes Jr. and Pennie Best Holmes. She was married to the late Carl Herman Settlemyer, Sr. Sallie had worked with Bryan Oil Company for many years. She was a member of the Fleet Reserve Association Ladies Auxiliary and a former member of the American Business Women̢۪s Association. Sallie was an active member of Selah Christian Church, where she had served as a Sunday school teacher for both adult and youth classes and as the church pianist for over 50 years. Sallie was also a member of the U.S.S. O'Bannon Shipmate Association where she served as the secretary from 1979-1981.

A service to remember Sallie will be held Friday, December 11, 2009 at 2:00 p.m. at Selah Christian Church with Rev. Patrick Muston and Rev. Jean Hood officiating. Burial will follow in the Holmes Family Cemetery near the home.

Sallie is survived by her daughter, Susan S. Sauls and husband, Kenneth Floyd Sauls of Grantham; her son, Carl H. Settlemyer, Jr. and wife, Linda of Derwood, MD; her grandchildren, Carl H. Settlemyer III and wife Elizabeth, Sharon S. Clem, Sandra S. Walsh and husband James, Katherine Williams and husband Derreck, and Dana S. Sauls; and eight great-grandchildren.

In addition to her husband and parents, she was preceded in death by her sisters, Mildred Smith and Alice Britt; and her brother, Robert Holmes.

In lieu of flowers, memorials may be made to Selah Christian Church, in care of Jean Hollowell, 3304 Stevens Mill Road, Goldsboro, NC 27530.

The family will receive friends Friday from 1:00 - 2:00 p.m. at Selah Christian Church and other times at her home, 1756 Selah Church Road in the Grantham Community.

Online condolences may be sent to the family at http://www.seymourfuneralhome.com/.

Selah people' and friends please keep Ms. Settlemyer,s family and her church family in your thoughts and prayers. Also keep your pastor lifted up as Sallie was such a special inspiration and encouragement in my ministry. She called me her "young preacher" and I called her more than friend we became family. I love this woman and her wonderful spirit. As she shared with me during our last visit "I will see you later!" May she finally get her rest.


In Christ service,

Patrick


Rev Patrick Muston, pastor


Selah Christian Church

Four Oaks, NC


http://selahchurch.com

Join us for our FREE LIVE NATIVITY this Friday and Saturday from 6-8:30pm we will have 13 biblical scenes and over 100 cast members sharing the story of Christ.

Listen to our music special and sermon at our media site:
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Wednesday, December 9, 2009

Church Leaders Intelligence Report 12.9.2009 ~ Be informed!

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12.09.09



Effective Managers vs. Effective Leaders


Info
With so much focus on leadership today the lines of effective management and effective leadership often become blurred. Although there is a significant amount of overlap between the two roles of managers and leaders, the two disciplines actually draw on different, and often times contradictory, qualities. Successful small business consultant and often published business writer Susan Brown sets forth how typical management and leadership styles differ across various components: personality, goals, strategy, qualifications and experience, and relationship to team members.
Personality Type Good managers have a tendency to seek comfort and stability in both their professional and personal lives. They are usually somewhat risk adverse, tending to favor the preservation of the status quo. People who do well in a management role are inclined to be detailed-oriented and excel at things that call for organization.
On the other hand, effective leaders are typically at ease with considerable amounts of risk and change when they believe it will help them successfully pursue their goals. They are also more willing to embrace the challenges and difficulties they encounter along the way that must be surmounted in order to achieve these goals. People who excel in leadership roles are more likely to be compelling free-thinkers who can comfortably think outside of the box.
Goals An effective manager's goal is to maximize productivity within the existing infrastructure or system of a ministry or organization by carefully planning, organizing, and controlling a myriad of details and tactics. Theirs is a very hands on role. In contrast an effective leader will work on a system rather than in it. They are not concerned with just getting the job done, but they want to improve the whole process for the benefit of the team, the organization and its constituents.
Qualifications and Experience It is common for people in the management ranks to have slowly worked their way up the organizational ladder. Good managers often bring to their positions a high degree technical experience and a deep understanding of how the organization's systems operate. Although these are valuable traits, it is not uncommon for an effective leader to lack much of the experience that a person in management has acquired. Instead effective leaders can bring a new ideas, fresh outlook, and inspiration.
Strategy Historically, success in management comes as a result of adhering to organizational policy and consistently working on leveraging and maximizing output while reducing costs and rooting out inefficiencies. Managers tend to have a formal and rational approach to their jobs. Their strengths are heavily dependent on their individual abilities to delegate work, analyze data, and smoothly control performance and production flow.
Whereas, leadership success is often defined by the leader's ability to bring and implement change in the ministry or business and to empower its workers. Leaders are radical thinkers who have the courage and self confidence to follow their own instincts in seeking out new opportunities. To do this, successful leaders will procure the help and support of the workers to accomplish their goals.
Relationship to Employees As a rule managers default to an authoritarian approach when working with their subordinates. This means a manager speaks and the workers in his or her charge are expected to do what they are told. With this approach it is usually the manager that receives the most credit for a job well done.
But a leader intentionally seeks to inspire, coach and empower his team members. People are naturally inclined to loyally follow such leaders. Unlike the manager, a leader's interaction with his or her team members is less formal. Leaders also conscientiously seek to bestowing credit on their team members, where they honestly believe the credit is most deserving.
Though they there are times management and leadership may seem to come from different ends of the spectrum, the key qualities of good management and leadership compliment and augment each other. The best managers tend to possess some leadership qualities, and the most effective leaders bear many of the key managerial skills.


Susan Brown, The Difference Between Management and Leadership Suite101.com, 5/10/09







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Growing Online Presence of Small Church Pastors


InfoA search on Google reveals 52 million hits just on the phrase “small church.” “Small church pastor” and “small church ministry” produce 18 million and 10 million hits respectively. There is even a hashtag on Twitter for small church discussions, #smallchurch. A growing movement of small church pastors are writing and blogging about their experiences. The Rev. Les Puryear, who's been blogging since 2006, says, “Just because a church is small doesn't mean that the church is unhealthy.” His blog is a prime example of the increasing presence of small church pastors on the Internet. The issues in this movement include more equitable small-church representation on denominational boards and committees, production of material
specifically for the small-church environment and a change of heart about the small church as valuable and not unhealthy. Statistics show the vast majority of Protestant congregations in the U.S. are small, with an active membership of less than 100 people. Puryear says the small-church minister is hungry for material that fits. “It's important that small churches communicate with each other because we can learn from one another. Most of the denominational church health material is written by large church people who promote large church ideas. Most of these materials do not translate easily into the small church environment. We need to learn from each other in the small church.”

Rev. David B. Smith, Church Solutions, 11/09/09


Supreme Court Will Hear Case of Christian Student Club


InfoThe U.S. Supreme Court said it will decide whether a public university can refuse to recognize a religious student group because the group requires its leaders to share its religious beliefs. The justices agreed Monday to intervene in the case of Christian Legal Society Chapter of University of California, Hastings College of the Law v. Mary Kay Kane, et al., which was first filed in 2004 in the U.S. District Court for the Northern District of California. Since the federal civil rights suit was filed, attorneys with the Christian Legal Society and the Alliance Defense Fund Center for Academic Freedom have argued on behalf of the student chapter of CLS, insisting that the group should be able to decide its own membership and not be required by the college to admit homosexuals and non-Christians as members and officers in order to receive school recognition. “Christian students have the right to gather as Christians for a common purpose and around
shared beliefs,” stated ADF Senior Legal Counsel Gregory S. Baylor with the ADF Center for Academic Freedom. “It's completely unreasonable—and unconstitutional—for a public university to disrupt the purposes of private student groups by forcing them to accept as members and officers those who oppose the very ideas they advocate.” The Christian Legal Society, which has chapters at universities nationwide, has sued other universities on the same grounds. It won a similar suit against Southern Illinois University, which settled with the group in 2007 and recognized its membership and leadership policies.


Christian Post 12/8/09


New Flu Resource Available for Churches


InfoShould churches abandon the common cup during communion? Is it unsafe to extend the peace of Christ with a handshake during worship? Are we spreading too many germs when we hold hands during prayer? In light of the continuing news about the H1N1 influenza outbreak, churches across the nation are wrestling with questions like these and trying to make wise and sensible decisions to keep their congregations safe and healthy. For a limited time, ChurchSafety.com is offering a free 31-page electronic resource, “Preparing Your Church for a Pandemic.” The download offers church leaders advice on how to organize a response plan, communicate effectively with staff and members, and set up policies to stem the risk and spread of infection. “This resource provides practical, comprehensive help for navigating this season of overwhelming illness,” explains Marian Liautaud, editor of ChurchSafety.com. “Whether or not you're faced with the threat of H1N1, every church should be prepared to respond to a health crisis that could affect their entire congregation.” The download is especially timely as churches prepare for the holiday season when many congregations experience their highest levels of activity and attendance. Click here to download the resource. The resource is available free of charge until December 31, 2009.
Christian NewsWire, ChurchSafety.com, 12/7/09


Senior Population Growing Rapidly


InfoChurches have a growing opportunity to offer ministry to seniors as the elderly population continues to increase rapidly in our society. According to the U.S. Census Bureau, in the next five years alone, the population of those over 65 will increase by 40%, from 36.8 million to 51.7 million. By mid-century, the worldwide population of seniors is projected to triple. In the U.S., this could add up to 88.5 million people over 65, comprising 20% of the population.
MediaPost 11/9/09


Churches Offering Support to the Grieving During the Holidays


InfoMany people who have lost loved ones find they are depressed, and coping with the holiday hustle-and-bustle is just too much to bear. In order to help those dealing with grief during the holiday season, many churches across the nation are now hosting seminars and events, such as GriefShare 'Surviving the Holidays' seminars, to help grieving people deal with the painful, debilitating emotions they face during the holiday season. Dr. Michael Lindsay, a sociologist at Rice University specializing in religion and culture, says: “In times of death or divorce, people are most likely to reengage in a church.” Topics discussed include dealing with depression during the holidays, prioritizing holiday activities and events, control of emotions, and how God helps
during these times. Participation from non-churched people in these seminars has exceeded expectations. Churches are finding events and seminars of this type consistently draw people from the community into their churches.

ASSIST News Service 12/4/09


Rick Warren Comments on the Future of Christianity



InfoIn a recent conversation with Pew Forum on Religion and Public Life, Pastor Rick Warren of Saddleback Community Church in Lake Forest, CA commented, “The last 50 years has seen the greatest redistribution of a religion ever in the history of the world. For instance, in 1900, 71% of all 'Christians' lived in Europe; by 2000 it had declined to just 28% who claimed to be Christian. Far fewer go to church. Conversely, in 1900, only 10% of all people in Africa (10 million) were Christians vs. over 50% (360 million) today...I may surprise some when I say that there are by far more Christians in China than in America. There are more Presbyterians in Ghana than in Scotland, where they were founded by John Knox. There are more Baptists in the India state of Nagaland than in the American South. There are more Anglicans in Kenya or Uganda or Rwanda or
Nigeria than in England. There are two million Anglicans in England compared to 17 million in Nigeria. Last Sunday, more Christians went to church in China than all of Europe combined. This is a fundamental shift. If you want to know the future of Christianity, it is the developing world. It's Africa, Latin America and Asia.”

December 9, 2009 ~ Half-Baked Cakes

Is your faith through-and-through or Half-baked?


Today's Scripture:


My people mingle with the heathen, picking up their evil ways; thus they become as good-for-nothing as a half baked cake!

Hosea 7:8


Although no one seems to know the exact history of pancakes, apparently even the earliest civilizations quickly learned that ground-up grain and water made a basic pancake. Over the years, people learned that ingredients like eggs and baking powder made the cakes lighter. Now you can find pancakes made out of all sorts of grain ingredients, with myriad stuffings and toppings. Patty tells about the chocolate-chip pancakes her mom used to make. "They were really thick, " Patty explains. "Mom mixed the chocolate chips into the batter and poured it into the pan."


Patty loved those pancakes-usually. "Sometimes however the pancake would look done. But when I cut into it, raw batter would ooze out. It was pretty disgusting."


Half-cooked pancakes not only taste bad, but they also carry a threat of salmonella poising from the raw eggs. And you can't take a half-cooked pancake, flip it back on the griddle, and make it good-for the inside to heat more, for the outside will get rubbery.


You can't do anything with a half-cooked pancake except throw it away.


Selah people' and friends a half-baked cake or pancake is the illustration Hosea gave in the Scripture tackling the paramount issue of trying to live between two worlds spiritually. The person doesn't really want to live wholly like a God-follower; but on the other hand, nor does he or she want to live like someone who isn't a God-follower. As a result, the person doesn't fit anywhere and is about as useful as a half-raw pancake. Trust me I have been there myself and it that middle of the road, straddle-the-fence kind of life that is empty.


"Look at where you are today and keep serving God with a wholehearted commitment. Place your total faith in him, and every day explore ways you can serve him better."


Your pastor,


Patrick


Selah Christian Church

Four Oaks, NC

http://selahchurch.com

Join us for our FREE LIVE NATIVITY this Friday and Saturday from 6-8:30pm we will have 13 biblical scenes and over 100 cast members sharing the story of Christ.

Listen to our music special and sermon at our media site:

http://selahmedia.tripod.com